As I sat around Thursday evening, finished watching a new episode of a TV show I enjoy, I didn’t know what to write at the time. I do have a notepad of potential blog posts, and I add to it everyday when I get an idea, but none of those called out to me. I learned one important thing when writing: Don’t force your voice. I have trashed many posts that never took hold of me. I forced my voice to make it work and it didn’t.
So when I logged into WordPress, I still didn’t know what I was going to write. And then it hit me: I was going to write about raising children in today’s world.
Now my coworkers are the impetus for this topic today, as I don’t have any children. Two of my coworkers talked about how their children got in trouble at school. They found out via email while at work. Today I learned that teachers have their student’s parent’s emails and email them whenever they got in trouble at school. When I was a kid, the teacher only told your parent when you got in trouble unless you did something BAD! But I digress.
Seems my coworkers’ kids are getting in much trouble recently. One had to spank their kid. The other keeps getting reprimanded by the other. It got me thinking about how we raise children in today’s world. I wouldn’t say it’s any more difficult to raise a good kid but I wouldn’t say it’s any easier. You have to deal with social media such as Facebook and Twitter, video games, TV everywhere and the media trying to lure your kid to get the newest toy/food/gadget/clothing/etc. to be cool. Add the lackluster American public school system and various dangers on the streets (gangs, drug dealers, pedophiles, etc.) and raising even a decent child to their eighteenth birthday without incident is hard.
But it can be done.
My mom became a single parent of two children after she divorced my dad and he packed up his things and left, never to say another word to us. To this day I don’t know where he is or whether he’s even alive. But my mom didn’t let that setback weaken her biblical responsibilities to her children. God reminded people all throughout the Bible that children are a blessing, and as with any other blessing you must treat it well. To mistreat your child or children in any way is to mistreat God. Now, I know of the saying, “Spare the rod, spoil the child,” and that has its time and place but the rod is only to be used to correct a child and not abuse him or her.
But many parents, Christian and non-Christian, don’t hold that view today. Some despise their children because “they ruined their lives,” while others find their children too troublesome. Oh yes, they loved them as babies but as soon as they grew up and started talking and demanding things, they lost their charm. Plus, there’s a growing population of parents that have given up parenting all-together and let someone else do it. Someone else is either the nanny or the school but then becomes the American prison system.
I don’t think my coworkers are bad parents. I don’t live with them and I never met the kids so I can only go by what they say in the office. I just think they are getting frazzled by the difficult job of parenting and need some support. If that means they have to talk to each other at work then so be it.